Why I Started This
They say rock bottom will teach you lessons that mountaintops never will. I didn’t just hit rock bottom – I unpacked and lived there for a while.
I didn’t get to the place I’m in now from strategy sessions or business plans. It came from survival mode – post-divorce, emotionally wrecked, financially drained, caught in the thick fog of family court, CMS, and solo parenting. It came from years of battling a system that felt cold and unjust. It came from being dismissed, underestimated, and, at times, downright ignored.
This isn’t just a blog – it’s a helpline, a little bit of rebellion, and a lets be frank, this is warts and all!
When You’re on Your Knees
There were days I felt like I was drowning in uncertainty, legal jargon, and no help from the very people meant to help. Days when I didn’t know how I’d get through the week – or pay the bills. Nights spent staring at spreadsheets that didn’t add up, court dates, emails I couldn’t face to open, and a bank account that told a story no one else saw.
All while trying to keep life feeling “normal” for my children.
I didn’t have a backup plan, a wealthy family, or a safety net. I had grit, three children watching me, and an inner voice that refused to quit the fight for fairness.
Why I’m Sharing This Now
Because no one prepared me for how lonely, broken, and misunderstood life after a toxic relationship can feel.
No one gave me the roadmap for rebuilding a life from scratch – emotionally, financially, practically. And certainly no one told me that years later, I’d still be navigating CMS battles and winning a tribunal against the Secretary of State after three relentless years of evidence, hearings, and stonewalling.
But I won. Not just legally – spiritually, emotionally, mentally.
And now, I want to help to make sure others don’t have to walk this path alone.
What You’ll Find Here
This isn’t about “perfectly curated” healing. It’s not about finding yourself on a yoga retreat in Bali. It’s about real-life resilience. The messy, beautiful, uncomfortable truth of rebuilding a life on your own terms.
All sorts of experiences I will share from toxic and abusive relationships, boundaries, burnout, co-parenting, money, healing, court, CMS, recovery, confidence, growth, mindset, mistakes, and milestones.
If you’re trying to find your way through it – or make sense of the wreckage you’re climbing out of – you’re in the right place.
You’re Not Stupid
In fact you never were, far from it – you just found yourself in a situation you never should have been in. And now, you’re getting wise. Very wise. Step by step. On your terms. And in your time.
I will write something every week, share what I’ve learned – the stuff I wish someone had handed me when I was in the thick of it. And if it helps you take one more small step forward, then it’s worth every word.
